The mother of teenage children

As a mother is really not an easy task, especially when the children become teenagers.

Waking ups the children, rushing them to be on time for school is considered nagging to them. Call them to study harder, and not to be on the computer or phone for too long is considered nagging to them. Checking what kind of friends they mix with is considered nagging to them. Asking them to eat dinner is considered nagging to them. Asking them to tidy up the room is considered nagging to them.

Perhaps only if the children know to do things ‘automatically’, then we do not need to be keep calling and calling and become a nagging mummy. Perhaps only when the children become parents, then they understand the heart of being a parent.

I started to feel loneliness as the children grown to teenagers. They have their circle of friends and barrier started between our communications. I know sometimes my tone is wrong, but I felt the children show no patience towards the parents. I really wonder nowadays how come the youngsters could talk to their friends and they could not talk to their parents properly. Is this really the starting of ‘代沟’ ?

In order to prevent unhappiness, I could only keep quiet, keep my eyes away from what they are doing. If I don’t see, I don’t nag. But I felt lonesome and I started to miss my beloved hubby, only if he could be with me till I old.

The children do not understand why I like to go back to my mum’s house early. At least over there, I have the company of my mum, my sisters and the others that I could talk with and I don’t feel that I am alone.